From the archive of my former Russian website. Edited for this website.
When inner truth is heard
I think relief can come when a person voices their inner truth and meets attentive listening without judgement. Their inner world begins to feel real to them.
A person seeks professional support when something inside keeps them from moving forward. Often these are beliefs, or decisions made in childhood. They once served a purpose, but now restrict further movement.
Recognising what hurt
For example, an adult who was mistreated by their father may feel as though they are waking from a nightmare after hearing a simple sentence: “That must have been very painful and frightening.” They hear themselves, perhaps for the first time in many years:
“It hurt so much, and I was so afraid, that I had to split inside myself to silence myself, hide my feelings, and convince myself every day that I was the one who was bad and wrong—not my father, who could not manage his rage and took it out on a child.”
Recognising one's experience in this way can be the beginning of change. Gradually, the person learns to support themselves, relax, and notice their feelings. Each person's path unfolds differently.
Or a woman whose mother has addressed her with accusations, threats, and insults throughout childhood and adolescence, and still does today, suddenly realises that she does not have to allow this treatment. She does not have to endure it “because this is someone close.” Being close makes respect all the more important. She reaches a conclusion: “Being alone is already hard. If I am with someone, I want closeness and love, not humiliation.”
Making room for inner support
The person finds an experience or resource that was missing. They begin to clear layers of old hurt and suffering, opening a passage towards the light.
If there was no inner support, this experience of inner truth can help them start to rely on themselves. First, they reclaim a little space to stand on tiptoe; then enough to put one foot down; then both. They look around and decide where they want to go next.
What do you think?